single parents dating: how to move forward with the kids?
i’m a single mom of a 2 yr old girl (her father is completely out of the picture) and i’m dating a single dad of a 3 yr old girl and a 6 yr old boy. things are going great between us, we’ve been dating a couple months now. we’ve briefly met each others’ kids, but not spent any time with them. we’ve talked about it though, and we both want to start getting to know each others’ children at some point in the near future.
does anyone have any advise on the best way of going about this?
do you think it’s too soon?
what sort of things would be good to do together? my friend has invited us all to her son’s 6yr birthday at chucky cheese, would that be a good way to start maybe, with lots of people around?
any helpful suggestions would be great, thanks!! 
we’ve already talked about disciplining the kids, and treating them differently. we’re on the same page.
You’re going to run into problems especially when it comes to discipling the kids and you’ll take your kid’s side and he’ll take his. Rethink if you really want to go through that.
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Congratulations! Hope it works out for you. The kids seem young enough that it really doesn’t matter how you meet. They will adjust. However, one thought. Please don’t introduce anyone to your children unless you truly believe you will be having a long term relationship. I speak from experience here. My parents were divorced and my mom dated several men over the years. Each one I got attached to only to have him disappear from my life later on. It gets a little painful after a while. I also imagine that it was part of the reason that I had to work on my relationship when I was younger. I tended to not want to get close to men, or if I did I would panic and break it off. Just a thought.
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It sounds like you are on your way to a great relationship. I think the Chucky Cheese idea is a great one. Out in public at first takes the focus away from being so personal, allows you to get to know his kids without being too personal. I think its a great idea.
Find out what the kids like to do, you know what your daughter likes, find out what his kids like and see if there is anything in common. Then, build some fund things you can all do together that you know are of common interest to the kids. When the kids get to know each other, it will break down barriers and make it easier for both of you to demonstrate your love and affection for each other.
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You’re going to run into problems especially when it comes to discipling the kids and you’ll take your kid’s side and he’ll take his. Rethink if you really want to go through that.
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