Simple Tips To Mend a Broken Heart in Just Six Steps!
People may say no one ever expired from a damaged heart, but when you’re suffering from one, it sure doesn’t feel that way, at least at first. These recommendations may help you navigate the painfully uneasy waters of a relationship which has stopped and help you mend a broken heart.
What is a heart break?
“My heart is broken”, you have heard many of us say this. You have now started thinking as to how does it feel to be heart broken? Heartbreak is a particularly weird trouble. It is beautifully distressing, and yet we cannot find an injury on our body. It is like one gigantic emotional discomfort but it also seems to spark off loads of other feelings. We don’t like the feeling of heartbreak, and yet we find ourselves compelled to go over and again memories, ideas or fantasies which make the feeling worse. What is going on?
“My heart is damage, and gone….” this song by Ryan Adams should sound good to many a damaged heart, yet for how long will it last? How long before that empty feeling fades away? Everybody knows there’s no fast fix, but the effort needs to be made and over time, you are bound to heal.
How to pass this section of your life?
The First Phase – REALIZATION
- Of late you have started spotting that things have become a bit shaky and often tremulous between you and your partner, somehow both of you are not enjoying each other’s company… And the like.
- You have slowly come to realize that things are not working out the way it used to. Somehow, the sparkle which was there in your relationship has turned lusterless.
- Finally to need to have the courage to get up and say the relationship ISN’T WORKING ANYMORE.
The Second Phase – SELF DENIAL
- So now is the time for the big fight and the debate and the accusations and eventually both of you promise never to see each other again!
- What happens now when you realize you are actually on your own? What if you start to miss them? What if you’re feeling like calling up? You have recently started thinking that maybe it wasn’t a brilliant idea to wreck up after all!
- And then you get that surge of Self Esteem- you keep reminding yourself why you split up in the first place. The relationship wasn’t working out so naturally it seemed to be a smart idea to break up.
The Third Phase – Sulk….BOO…HOO!
- when you become conscious that life will be different henceforth, you go through the part of self pity-cry into a pillow, listening to songs that remind you of them, and torture yourself thinking what’s going to happen next.
- Your life may seem over, but trust me, time heals a damaged heart and the agony will be gone too.
- This stage is too shitty, but it’s vital. Don’t be shy agony in your heart, you’ll only feel worst later on.
The Fourth Phase – The Anger
- A very critical stage to cure a broken heart- this is when you went out the Bitterness.
- You list your buddies irritating characteristics that you once thought was really cute and love using the choicest adjectives to describe them.
- at about that point you actually grow out of self pity look good and feel good as you dress to impress.
- Over time you will start missing them less and love yourself more.
- Keep yourself busy with new hobbies, work and friends. There’s no point feeling sorry for yourself when there is a whole world out there waiting for you.
The Fifth Phase – Back in the League
- With time you may notice that there are many fine folks other than your ex, waiting to know you and love you.
- Once you’re able to open up again, other people will wish to get to know you.
- Get out and start having fun again, even if you’re not prepared to start another intense relationship.
The Sixth Phase – Liberty at Last
- Hey it has been days without you having thought about your ex! Even if you do, they don’t hurt anymore.
- It doesn’t even feel bad if you them on the streets. A formal Hi! And you are on your way – smiling, assured and raring to go.
- You are ultimately free and ready to open and love again! Grin.
Try believing in soul mates, simply because one relationship failed to click, does not imply that there’s not another person waiting close by to grab you up. Mend a damaged heart and life goes on to add new pleasures and a new love!
Recap
If you are heart damaged, learn, feel and live again. If someone doesn’t love you anymore or you do not love them, there’s no point in staying together even if it hurts to break up. Over time the discomfort will heal and you’ll be in a position to let others in and share your superb self with them.
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