Comment of the Day: Online Dating Nightmares [We Read You]
# wereadyou Today we looked at sad lonely online dating for sad lonely people . Naturally this got you all telling your own stories, with one commenter painting an interesting triptych of women. More »
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The whole situation with him seems suspicious. While he seems to really care for you there are two many bodies popping up along the way, like a wife and female MSN penpals. I think you’re only alternative is to give him an ultimatum. Unless he can verify that he is divorced and proves in some way that he wants to spend his life with you, you should keep him out of your life. I realize that you love him but you can’t spend your life being jerked around like a yo-yo. If he really wants to be with you he’ll move heaven and earth to do it. Otherwise, move on.
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once bitten twice shy i so need advice on my feelings for this soldier put me on the right track?
well im a mum of 3 kids and through a chat site i met a soldier.we chatted for months while he was on tour.he was wonderful to talk to and we hit it off .we decided to meet and it was instant bonding between us .we met as often as we could and it was love for us both.he was insecure at times about me and i was the same with him at times too.we always reassured each other though and we had both been hurt by past relationships but together we were so good.
anyway i was didnt know much about military life and the long spaces apart ,lack of communication at times .when my texts were’nt answered and promises of him coming to stay with me got broken .but had no explanation to say why.my mind went into turmoil and self doubt set upon me.
then out of the blue he would text me and say sorry etc.yes i forgave him and tried to understand .
anyway nagging doubts about him being married crept into my mind and i felt suddenly neglected by him .a year later before he was deployed i ended it he was about to come over but i refused as he would disappear with no word of where he was.he pleaded i refused to see him as i felt he took me for granted.we did agree to meet as he said we needed to talk .however his phone got switched of and i text him every week but my messages were not being read as his phone was off.
i knew he had got deployed and we had often talked about how tough this would be for us .i was more than willing to be here for him though.anyway sat at my mates house one day still pinning for him .my mobile rang his name showed up i answered.my worst nightmare came true as the caller was a woman claiming to be his wife .she called me a few choice names and that was that.
when i asked him when he came online on msn he was vague and didnt know who it was .then he changed bases without my knowledge.still i loved him ached for him and even had a few dates but when i was home alone i knew that my feelings for him were strong .
time past we got back in touch even though his training took up his time and the miles apart didnt help.we still kept in touch ,and he told me he loved me and wanted me as much as i did him.
sorry folks i best get to the point lol sorry.
so for 3 years now we have always kept in touch ,tried to get on with my own life he kept in touch even when i didnt.both playing hot and cold .both doubting each other and childishly making each other jealous.bitter words and harsh words passed .
however neither of us gave up the contact.i just got on concerntrating on my kids and home life.
then i discovered a few women had made comments on his msn and it just seemed like he had been playing other women about.
i still loved him and i called his bluff saying his wife is the victim in all this .
thats when he had admited he was married but he was getting divorced,i shockingly sympathised as
he wasnt a bad man.anyway we became closer than ever texting and chatting.now hes deployed and i told him i will always love him .out of the blue he sent me his address and we write .just i write saying i love him and i support him.he replys to all my letters.thought he wouldnt hear from me and was delighted i still cared.havent written for a few weeks ,then he writes wondering why i havent written.so im all mixed up as i love this man and my feelings are so strong .just am i being led a merry dance? is he writing to others too? im just lost and feeling confused now and im wondering if he needs me and if he feels like i do.help please