Is being a single parent bottom of the dating barrel?
January 27, 2012 | 14 Comments
I’m a 26 year old , single guy and I’ve been taking care of my late sister’s kid for nearly 1 year and 6 months.Shes now 8 years old and of course going to school. I’ve been in an out of relationships prior to my sister passing away but as soon as I got the responsibility to care of a toddler I had to sacrifice a lot (a pg degree , hobbies , social life, sleep) and gave all my attention to her ’cause she was going through a tough time. Now that over an year has passed , we have developed a good bond with each other and she even started calling me daddy. I felt like I could now ease up a little and think about dating again. But every single time I meet a girl and take her out and finally tell her about my situation , all she ever wants is be a good friend of mine and nothing more. I mean, at the beginning , it does feel like there is a chemistry going on but as soon as I reveal I’m taking care of a child , most of them feel uncomfortable about dating again.
I’m just tired of hearing the same thing like "You are a nice person" or "You are doing a wonderful thing for her" e.t.c. like as though I am looking for their compliments or sympathy. But why is that they never want to be anything more than just "good friends"? They are not really mean or something, at times they do send a gift or something for the child .e.t.c So I really want to know, are girls repelled by the fact that I’m a single parent?
Its not like I’m sad or anything. I’m happy to take care of my niece and it brings me more joy than being with a date.But since I’m going through my late 20s and thinking about settling down, I’m seriously considering dating single moms (ofcourse my age, lol ) at this point ’cause I feel they will know what I’m going through and probably accept my daughter as their own without hesitation.
I would like to know if I’m approaching girls the wrong way , scaring them or if its just that I didn’t find the right person.
Thanks a lot!
Luv
Greg and of course lil’ Megan
Just to clarify a few things
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1. I’m not being a hypocrite when i say "I’m seriously considering dating a single mom". The reasons I wrote that is because I myself did not seek out for single moms specifically or exclusively. I have dated a divorcee even before all these happenings.
2. I dated 4 girls since becoming a single parent and one was 23, , 2 of em’ were 25 and one girl was 27.
3. I’m not a noob or stupid at dating itself. I know what to tell girls and how to treat them good. I’m not writing them a tragedy novel for them weep on. When the talk arises about who all are there in the family e.t.c. thats when I mention about the child and about my late sister. I keep it short and straight. Besides, I’m not ashamed about it and I’m always confident about myself. And thats because I love my daughter and I never see her as a burden.
First of all, no I dont think you are at the bottom of the "dating barrel" if something like that does exist.
You must remember that not many brothers would step up and sacrifice their life like you did and its definitely a reflection of what a good human being you are on the inside. Its unfortunate that the girls you met so far did not see this in you. But I assure you that a sensible girl , who ofcourse likes you as a person, would only like you even more seeing that you have a lot of courage.
I would definitely tell you to let them know straight away about yourself, don’t hide the fact that you are taking care of your sister’s kid. You can eliminate the unworthy idiots on the spot. I’m sure there are millions of girls out there who have hearts in the right place.
You don’t have to specifically seek out single moms and such. I would suggest you improve your social aspects and interact more , just like you used to prior to your sisters unfortunate death. Feel more normal again. You actually have a much better chance in getting a sweet girl than majority of the jerks out there who are only looking to have sex.
All the best ,man. God bless you and your child.
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January 20, 2012 | 2 Comments
Do you have a first hand experience with them? How successful were these tips?
Thanks a lot in advance.
I’m a girl and trust me I have read a lot on this topic in magazines. Combining my personal experience with it, I can say that just be yourself. Because if you won’t present your real self than you will not be able to sustain that image forever. You will slip and then a beautiful relationship will be reduced to arguments and counter arguments.
In short, just be yourself…
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January 13, 2012 | 4 Comments
Okay. So, I am going to be going on a date with a guy that I really like. We are both single parents and neither of us has even tried dating since our splits with the other parents quite a while back. We’ve hung out a few short times and conversation usually ends up going to our kids. I am okay with that. But, I think I just get nervous and go blank on things to talk about.
When we go on our date, what are some conversation topics that might help?
You could talk about your families, not your children, but your parents/siblings/backgrounds.
Talk about where you went to school/ or your jobs.
Current events.
Upcoming holidays.
Sports or hobbies that you are into.
Interests or charities that are important to you.
Movies or shows that you like.
Hope this helped. Have fun on your date.
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January 8, 2012 | 3 Comments
I am single parent and i am looking for a website for dating for single parents
I would look into scoretoscore.com or eharmoy I think you have to pay for harmony and I know scoretoscore.com is a free site .. You always got facebook also.
what are some free lesbian single parents dating site?
January 1, 2012 | 2 Comments
im lukn for FREE dating sites for single lesbian parents?? any ideas?
Try a free dating site that offers a different angle to online dating. Best is Friends Match Me dating site. It is completely free. You can find out if other members have mutual friends with you or similar Facebook Likes! Also they have member videos too!
A lot of people say they met their gf/bf through another friend. Friends Match Me helps you do that.
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