5 Ways to Enhance Your Online Safety for A Better Dating Experience
April 29, 2010 | Leave a Comment
Online dating services are a great way to meet other people you can hang out with. In a world where everyone has busy schedules, online dating gives people a good way to meet and quite possibly make their match. , There are also those who not so busy but spend all their time on computers playing video games or going to chat rooms and forums who can benefit from online dating. However, because the internet is a virtual world, you have to be very careful and make sure you don’t get burned, which can happen sometimes too. Here are 5 tips for online dating that can help you keep your sanity intact.
1) Establish Identities and Bona Fides
Whatever you do, be as honest as you can with the information you provide, but DON’T assume the other person is doing otherwise. It’s all too easy to post, for example, a false picture (including the dreaded gender bender) and information. Until you can prove otherwise, assume that the other person MAY actually be lying about their age, gender, address, etc. Don’t fully assume they’re lying, since this ruins the conversations you have with them. Simply hold back and have enough disbelief unless you get solid evidence to the contrary.
2) Don’t give out vital personal information
This is very important. The last thing you want to do is to give your bank account number to someone just because she (who might be a “he”) acts all pretty and sweet. NEVER provide someone online with vital information that could be used to burn you. These could be your bank information, social security numbers, and even the user name and password of your online gaming characters. There are tons of scammers out there, and if the person you’re talking to tries a little TOO hard to pry for vital info, then drop them like a hot potato!
3) Take your Time
There’s no rush. Sure, we all want to meet someone special but it’s best to take your time to get to know the other person. A guy who may seem like a perfect gentleman, for example, may reveal stalker tendencies after a month or two. Avoid them like the plague, girls! For the men, I trust you’ve had your own share of nightmare axe-murderess ex-girlfriends too, and those who wipe out your bank accounts so do be careful as well boys! Take your time getting to know your online date before committing to anything that might land you in hot water… or tied spread-eagled on a sacrificial pentagram with your “date” hovering over you with a rusty knife. Don’t laugh. It’s creepy but it does happen.
4) Offer to meet in Person
Once you’re sure that you like your online date, you two get along, and you’ve got a pretty good groove going, then don’t hesitate! Ask them out! From this point on treat it like a real date. Set a time, a place, make your preparations, and go, go, go! This meeting is called an eyeball. This is the only real way you can make sure you weren’t getting spoofed by an online prankster pretending to be a chick, or a scammer out to get your money. IF your date refuses to meet in person or makes excuses to avoid an eyeball, assume the worst and bail out! There’s always another opportunity with someone better. Don’t lose hope!
5) Take precautions when you Eyeball
Lastly, treat the eyeball like a real date, and take safety precautions accordingly. Meet in a public place, keep the initial date a “clean fun” type, and don’t carry an overly fat wallet with you in case your date is a mugger with a .44 magnum. Let your folks or, if you’re older, your buddies, know where you’re going and what time they can expect to hear from you again, just to make sure someone knows where to look for you and rescue you in case Bad Things Happen.
Your safety should always be a priority. Never take anything for granted and assume nothing bad will happen to you. Sure, that does happen only if you take the necessary precautions. Remember these tips, apply them and you can start feeling more safe in the knowledge you can always keep your head in these situations. In the meantime, enjoy your date, lucky you!
Abbas Abedi
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/5-ways-to-enhance-your-online-safety-for-a-better-dating-experience-101387.html
A Simple Way to Instantly Destroy Your First Date
April 29, 2010 | Leave a Comment
How are you acting on your first date?
Well if you’re like the majority of guys, then you might be screwing up your date.
Now I know the first date can be a major stumbling block for a lot of men. You want to make a great first question and enjoy yourself. But you could be making a major mistake which you’re not even aware of.
Normally I like to give advice about “what to do” on your date. But today I think it’s more important to tell what NOT to do.
So what are you doing wrong?
It’s simple…
You’re putting too much pressure on the first date!
What do I mean?
Well I’m talking about the difference of view point that women and men have about the first date. For instance, a woman uses the first date to decide if a guy is worth dating. Whereas a guy normally comes to the first date already interested and nervous about making a great first impression.
So what normally happens is the guy is trying hard to say and do the right thing. Unfortunately his actions fill the date with nervousness and anxiety.
My advice is simple…
Don’t put too much pressure on the first date. Instead just relax and have fun with it.
One technique you can try is to reverse roles and use the first date to qualify her. You can have fun by lightheartedly letting her know that she needs to match YOUR standards. And if she fulfills your expectations, she’ll be allowed to go on future dates with you.
Also you need to remember that the first date is about qualifying one other. So instead of being like other guys, you should approach the date as a fun chance to meet a woman who MIGHT be interesting. Then if you have fun, you’ll decide to date her in the future.
So during your date, act in a sarcastic/joking manner about how you have criteria for what you want in women. Then every time she does something wrong, you joke around and tell her that she’s ruining her chances of a future date. If you can do this is in a fun way, you’ll demonstrate that you have a strict code of conduct. In addition, you’ll establish yourself as an alpha male who is the selector instead of the selectee.
The rationale behind this mindset is to show to the woman that you’re not afraid to be challenging. Unlike the guy who nervously approaches the first date, you’ll act like an old friend who immediately relaxes and enjoys himself.
So if you want to destroy your chances of having a great first date, then you’ll put too much pressure on the outcome. Instead of doing this, just relax, enjoy the interaction and qualify her.
When you do this, you’ll become a guy who is fun and challenging on the date.
Scott Patterson
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/a-simple-way-to-instantly-destroy-your-first-date-144486.html
Singles, Online Dating & Chat Sms Tips
April 29, 2010 | 3 Comments
If you are dabbling in the singles and dating game like many other singles, your mobile and texting facility can be utilised as one of the most substantial instruments you own in communicating, chatting and romancing the opposite sex. Only a couple of cheeky words or gestures can produce a scene and add exhilaration to a coming forth love affair. For singles who are dating or utilising online dating or chat rooms, texting, if used right, can be a handy option that can have a great impact.
Text messaging or sms (short message service) constitutes by far the handiest, quickest and most upfront form of communicating obtainable other than when communicating in person.
Have you of late been out to a club or related type locale and exchanged cell numbers with somebody you encountered that night? Come the following day, your very keen to get hold of this individual although your not feeling anywhere near as assured as the night prior whilst you had those seven vodkas under your belt. An sms/text is an uncomplicated yet hard-hitting alternative. This takes away the impression of rejection whenever they do not return your sms, there is no nuisance value of real chat, an sms/text permits you to be candid and direct, sending the ball squarely back to their court.
Try not to over accentuate text messaging. You do not wont to take chances building up someone’s anticipations only to eventually let them down. Texting is most efficient for light and plain communicating, and is best kept to a short duration otherwise your text can oftentimes leed to a misunderstanding.
Increasingly we pick up stories of people finishing an arrangement or even a love affair via a text message. An sms is an entertaining means to hit off a love affair, but an atrocious and spineless means to end one. Recent data has been included as part of online dating research undertaken by an Australian University expressing that 28% of relationships cease via text messaging. Also, 62% of singles in this same group declared that over abbreviations with sms/texting was a turn off.
An unspoken principle that applies is that it is polite to return an sms/text inside a few hours. Whenever no message is returned in this time frame, it may appear like you are being brushed off. People frequently make the error of using the incorrect context or can be sarcastic while texting. A sarcastic text message can oftentimes offend the receiver who can easily translate your message in a contrasting view to the view you meant.
Texting is practised for many intentions other than for singles and dating intentions. It is a very convenient instrument for communicating with acquaintances, family or for business intentions. Internationally, there are more than 3 billion text messages sent daily.
A few online dating sites have conformed with the times providing singles mobile chat and sms chat as part of their website characteristics. An IT professor from America – Michael Turner, hosted a business conference in Sydney Australia in the middle of 2007, and formed the prediction that mobile devices and mobile communicating would supersede all forms of modern non mobile devices such as desk tops inside the following 7-8 years.
Mr Online Dating
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/singles-online-dating-chat-sms-tips-716235.html
Guilty Christian Singles
April 29, 2010 | 14 Comments
Walking around with guilt as a single Christian can come from many different areas of our lives.
Many Christians walk around with this heavy burden of guilt because they are allowing sexual impurity in their dating lives. I know I am speaking to some who are weary (hey, I’ve been there, done that) of all the double-mindedness, but can’t quite get up the strength to turn around. So they live with guilt like a millstone tied around their necks, and it’s chokng every bit of spiritual joy out their lives. Sound vaguely familiar?
Other takes on dealing with guilt in dating relationships include:
* Remaining in a relationship include remaining in a liaison that you know you should have never entered in the first place. For example, Dating an unbeliever and all that goes along with that.
* Remaining in a relationship for all the wrong reasons such as convenience or fear over how the other person may react to the news that you’re breaking up with them.
Dealing With the Guilt of Being Single
Much of this guilt is hoisted upon us by those misguided but well meaning friends, family and church members who insist on wanting to to know why we (The great catches that we are!) are still single after all these years.
Not a few singles have gotten quite pissed off at others for pointing out their continued single state. For this reason, many singles avoid church events that are flush with married couples, and holiday celebrations where the topic will most likely come up.
Dealing With Guilt as a Single Parent
In the US alone, there are 13 million single parents living with their children. Many of these are Christian single parents who deal with guilt in so many different areas of their lives:
* Guilt over getting a divorce or having a child out of wedlock
* Guilt over not being able to provide better for the children
* Guilt over even taking a few hours away from the children to go on a date. And that’s only the tip of the iceberg. There are many other potential areas a single parent dating may be be tempted to feel guilty.
What should a single person do with these guilty feeling? We recommend two avenues: Pray to the Lord for deliverance from sin and any false guilt, and join a single group where you can honestly discuss your feeling with other singles going through similar circumstances. You will find doing these things will eleviate much of your guilt.
David Butler
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/guilty-christian-singles-709984.html
Internet dating sites need to take cultural differences into account: researchers
April 28, 2010 | Leave a Comment
(PhysOrg.com) — Online dating sites that are used around the world need to take into account cultural differences, researchers at the University of Bath have found.
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