Why is Online Dating So Popular
February 28, 2010 | 4 Comments
The Internet has opened up many different avenues and opportunities. One such opportunity is in the area of dating. Online dating sites have sprouted up all over but why are they so popular? The popularity has to do with convenience. It is relatively easy to become a member of an online dating site and sit down and find a date. You have all of the photos in front of you and no longer do you have to go to the bars and other nightclubs to meet someone. So the first popular aspect of online dating is the quickness or convenience of it.
Back in the old days, you had to go where the singles hang out. That involved trying to get to know someone who was an absolute stranger. The really dangerous aspect of finding a date in the old days was the places you had to go. Usually these were bars and nightclubs where all have to put on a show and hope they will be able to buy a future date a drink and get the ball rolling. This can get very expensive as well. But with online dating, you get the person’s picture, their name, and some facts about them – all very quickly.
This leads to the aspect of low cost in online dating. Membership fees for online dating sites are nominal and you spend a lot less in finding a date. But at some point, you are going to have to go out on a real date. Computers and Internet connections are low-priced as well.
And then there is privacy factor that makes online dating so popular. You can use technologies such as Internet chat and web cams to have an online conversation with the other person. And you can do this in the privacy of your own home without having the interference of others.
Unfortunately online dating is popular in another way as well. It is popular for those who have ill intentions and those who like to live a lie. The same convenience, privacy, and economy enjoyed by the folks with integrity are also exploited by those with no integrity. Reputable online dating sites have ways of detecting if a person on their site is married or a sex crime convict. But with all of the safeguards, people still get by. For these predators it is nothing more than a game to them. So the popularity extends to the criminals as well and for this reason one who uses online dating sites must be ever so careful to safeguard certain information.
There are some basic tips to follow to protect you when using online dating services. Because these services are so popular to predators as well, you must be diligent in following the accepted safety practices for online dating. One thing is to never give too much personal information to someone on the other end whom you are communicating with. Predators know how to take the information you give them and use it to exploit you. When you do have a first date, meet in a public place. Keep meeting in a public place until you get to know this person. Always let a friend or family members know what you are doing and your whereabouts. To help you do this, make sure you have a cell phone with you. The best thing actually is to have someone else with you on these dates but if you cannot, make sure someone else knows.
It’s like anything on the Internet: The popularity of an Internet activity is derived from good people as well as the bad. Know the safety tips and follow them.
Terence Young
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My Funny Experience on Free Date Sites
February 28, 2010 | 3 Comments
I have many good and bad experiences related to free date sites as I frequent to some of the free date sites for last three years. When I was new to these sites, my lack of experience had driven me to many funny experiences and these days, I laugh to myself when I remember those incidents. I’m sharing one of those funny incidents.
I have been a very fun loving guy since my college days and I flirt with girls whenever I get a chance. My aim behind joining free date sites was just to have fun and have loads of it. When all of my friends were talking about free date sites and how they were enjoying on those sites, I was excited to do the same- have a blast. So, I selected some of the best free date sites that my friends used and made them my destination during leisure. For the first few days I was confused about selecting my friends. But I got over the issue within some days; I could select people whose profiles I liked most.
Soon, I had only hot girls added to my friends group. It was amazing! I would chat with them for hours together. Free date sites had added new charms to my life. Some of the free date sites had features like voice chat and video chat. I had tried almost every option available as I love to experiment and experience. But, the most exciting thing was online chat. The provision of online chatting with other members is available on all free date sites. And, chatting online is something I really enjoy as I’ve mastered the art of conversation. Yes, if you want to succeed on the free date sites you have to learn the conversation skill.
I used the best of my talent- flirting with girls- to which some of the girls responded negatively and some took it easy. Some of them enjoyed it and some were head over heel in love with me. My worst challenge at that time was fixing date with different girls. I had to maintain a notebook to record the dates and timing of meeting the girls. Anyways, I was enjoying my life on free date sites. But you can’t expect life to be enjoyable every moment. Coincidentally, I promised to meet two girls from the free date sites on the same date, time and venue. Ooops……
That was one of the most thrilling moments of my life when I had to deal with two hot but furious ladies. I was sandwiched between the girls who were growling at me and simultaneously fighting with each other. But, blame it on my passion; I was still enjoying the gorgeousness of the blue-eyed girl with an hour-glass figure. That date- or you can say multiple dates- was over with my sneaking from that place and joining my friends to escape the situation.
But the incident never discouraged me to log in to the free date sites again and chatting with other girls. My friends still crack jokes at me reminding the situation and suggest me to be careful while on free date sites.
Davidson
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/my-funny-experience-on-free-date-sites-710689.html
Dating a Cakeman
February 28, 2010 | Leave a Comment
By Dr. Roger A. Rhoades
There is no telling how many men at any given time are cheating on their wives. To get an accurate reading would be almost impossible. You would have to ask men about something that they normally lie about and then expect them to tell the truth.
Probably the best way to get an accurate reading is to ask men how many of them feel their wives have driven them to an affair. I am sure men would be more than glad to own up to being a victim of circumstance and not having been the bad guy in the situation.
As long as men keep looking to blame someone or something for their infidelity, women will be lost on how to change their cheating ways.
It is hard to say how many men get into a marriage for all the wrong reasons: they want to have someone to have their babies, they want to fit in with other people in their social circle, they want to have someone at home with them, now that they no longer live with their parents, they want someone to take the place of their mothers and baby them.
No matter what the reason, some men do not get married to be faithful. They sometimes see a wife as merely the next step on the ladder of success. Marrying a good “corporate wife” can be a tremendous asset to a man whose sights are set on the top of the corporate ladder. But don’t be fooled, the thrill of the chase is still there.
These men, I call Cakemen. Cakemen are men who want to have their cake and eat it too. These men do not leave their wives. They stay with their wives and date someone else at the same time.
They like the fact that they can have someone stable at home, taking care of business, while they continue to play single guy with other women. They have no real desire to leave their wives and move on to someone else, unless their activities are discovered. If they are discovered, many of these Cakemen dump the girlfriend and stay with the wife, only to go back to cheating once the dust has settled.
In a man’s way of thinking, staying with his wife makes all the sense in the world. If he leaves his wife, then they will have to split up their possessions as well as their bills. In many times it takes a man several years to recover from this.
On the other hand, if he keeps the wife, he gets to keep his lifestyle going with only a minor glitch. The minor glitch is that he will have to act like he is real sorry, dump the old girlfriend, wait awhile, and then go back out and find a new girlfriend.
One of the major reasons men become Cakemen is because they do not want to grow up. It takes a mature adult to handle the day-to-day responsibilities of a monogamous relationship.
When a man has to see a woman every day and negotiate bills, affection, cooking, cleaning, shopping, and personal undesirable behavior, he longs for a simpler way of living. He wants to be a grown up, but somewhere in his soul he wants all the benefits and none of the responsibility.
Having a woman on the side allows him to play two different roles at the same time. In his mind the pressures of married life can be released by having a sexual relationship with someone else.
In his marriage he can play responsible man and co-decision maker, while in his affair, he can call all the shots and be the lord of the relationship.
The second major reason a man becomes a Cakeman is to keep the feeling of being a player. When a man gets married, many times he sees himself as being caught or conquered. It is now time for him to go out to pasture and be used as a stud service.
In his eyes, he is slowly, but surely becoming his dad. His days of being a major competitor are over. It is easy to see how this type of thinking would make a man feel old before his time.
One of the easiest and most available ways to feel young and in the game is to get involved in an affair. Now he is desirable. Now he is a man’s man. He is now feeling young and, even though his conscience might be bothering him, the thrill of being a player certainly outweighs those negative thoughts.
The final reason that men cheat on their wives, but don’t leave them, is that it is a safety net. Very few men get excited about a full-blown gamble. They want to believe that they at least have a 50/50 chance of winning. If there is any way to stack the cards in their favor, they are going to do it.
This is the thinking behind having a wife and a girlfriend. If for some reason a man’s wife is unwilling to be affectionate when and how he wants, then he has his girlfriend to take up the slack. If a man wants to be the center of attention and the mister know-it-all, but his wife deflates his ego, then he can go to his girlfriend for a good dose of hero-worshipping.
However, it is not just the wife who gets the short end of the stick, the girlfriend also suffers. At some point in the affair, some girlfriends who have heard this man say that he is unhappy with his wife will bring up the subject of divorcing his wife and marrying her. When a Cakeman is confronted with this issue, he is able to make excuses and fall back into a dilemma of commitment or what is the “right” thing to do. This position successfully keeps the girlfriend at bay for fear that she might lose him.
The sad part of all this behavior is that seldom, if ever does anyone come out on top. Usually one or more people suffer deep, long lasting wounds from this type of behavior.
Some women are unable or unwilling to trust another man after being with a Cakeman.
These men also suffer from their behavior. Sometimes they become morally bankrupt. They have trouble telling the difference between what is right and what is wrong. They fill their lives with lies and deceit, which in the long run can affect their ethical judgments in the work place.
Women are putting their lives on hold in hopes that their Cakeman will finally leave their wife and make them the center of their lives.
Finally, if children are involved, the destruction is unbelievable. Counseling offices are filled with children who either caught their father with another woman or had to live in a family where lying was the major form of communication.
The best advice is to play your life honestly. If a relationship is over, then bury it. If you are in a marriage and have met someone else, think before you act.
The emotional stability you save might be your own!
Dr. Roger A. Rhoades, a licensed professional counselor for more than 20 years, has gained a national following through his appearances on television talk shows. Visit his cyberspace office on www.greatstuff.com and preview his new book.
©2003, Dr. Roger A. Rhoades.
Dr. Roger A. Rhoades
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